01.25.12

Nearly 13 years ago my younger and only brother Luke was in a terrible car accident that he barely survived. It’s hard to believe it was that long ago. I was only 23 at the time and about to graduate from college. I returned home one night after going out with my then girlfriend (she is my wife now) to find a message on the answering machine from my mother that my brother had been in an accident and I needed to rush to the hospital immediately.

After a night of partying my brother hopped into a car with some friends, none of which should have been driving. The car lost control not long after they left a house in the country outside of our hometown of Kearney, Nebraska.

My brother was thrown from the vehicle and suffered severe injuries and head trauma. He was clinically dead when the ambulance arrived. He was later revived but in order to survive the brain swelling he was put into an induced coma for the next two weeks or so.

That is only where the story begins. My brother died multiple times as was recorded by the medical staff and each time had different near death experiences. It’s truly a miracle that he survived. His memory of events both in and out of his body are unique in my opinion amongst the mass of people who have had similar experiences.  I say this only because he remembers so many of them in extremely visual detail.

It took me many years to come to grips with my brother’s experiences and it put me on a coarse to search for meaning in my own life. His accident came at a time when I was supposed to enter the world confidently and begin my adult life after my education. Instead I began that life in question. All of my beliefs had been stripped from me. The next several years I struggled to care about the frustrating system in which we are supposed to live. A brush with something totally spiritual is enough to make you wonder why we have made life so difficult for ourselves in this world.

The only answer I have found is love. I love my brother. I love my wife, my parents, my friends, family and now my beautiful son. Love is the spiritual twine that binds us to this world and whatever is waiting for us on the other side.

My brother was asked last year to share his remarkable story with The Biography Channel. I suspect he will likely be asked again in the future to share his story at greater length through another media channel. His episode of I Survived…Beyond and Back will premier Sunday January 29th at 8pm Mountain Time (10pm EST).

I am apprehensive about watching it because I know he is going to share things I am sure I have probably never heard him speak of. I am very proud of him for deciding to tell his story and share it with such a large audience. He is my only brother and I love him so much. It’s been hard for him to pick up and carry on with life but he is now doing extremely well. It is amazing that he survived such a traumatic accident with barely a mark on him. He’s currently attending University with a major in theater and an interest in someday becoming a director.

I will be watching the show with my wife this Sunday. I invite you to join in. Lastly, I want to thank all of you who have read this blog and supported me over the years. This special place I have created has opened many doors for me and introduced me to some amazing people. I have always left the myself open on this blog as to who I am, the experiences I have had and what inspires me. It’s a line directly into who I am as a person. My brother’s experiences have had more impact on me than almost anything else that has happened in my life. There is nothing more personal that either I or my family could share. I hope his story will now further inspire you as we all look toward a more meaningful and spiritual future. Thank you for all the love you have given me through Changethethought. Hopefully this story will actually inspire the name I adopted for both my work and this blog a decade ago.

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17 Responses to “Lucas Cox: I Survived Beyond and Back”

  1. mitch monson Says:

    This is amazing stuff Chris!
    Will definitely watch and share with others.
    Thanks for sharing such a personal story. Best to Luke too.

    - Mitch

  2. Tyler Davis Says:

    I remember you telling me some of the stories while working at Mania. I will be watching for sure. Hope all is well.

    Tyler

  3. M Bulford Says:

    I really appreciate your openness to share this, and the impact a change of content can bring.

    Three years ago I went through very similar experience… I was also 23 at the time and in my last semester of school. My youngest brother, 18 at the time, got into a car at the end of the night with a driver who had been drinking. Speed was evolved and the vehicle lost control – all the passengers were thrown from the vehicle. My brother lost his life in that accident. I recall my life completely stopping, with one phone call – absolutely everything that had consumed my world were suddenly no longer relevant. I have spent the last few years trying to discover a reason to these events in life, but you are right, the only thing that remains true is love, and the happiness it can bring. If clarity is revealed through tragedy, then nothing is without purpose.

    Thanks for the story, and the opportunity to share mine – this was a nice break from work!

    Mark

  4. nicolette Says:

    I’ve been a longtime follower of your blog and appreciate what you shine light to in design and the world, and how each impact each other. I just finished watching your brother’s story after reading your last post. As someone ever searching for clarity and place; meaning, it’s so amazing how instances of extremes, and tragedy can reveal a bit of relief, and peace. How the common, tragic experiences in this segment, while all individual, unrelated, were linked in this universal, cohesive radiance…it’s mesmerizing. Your brother’s story is truly touching, inspiring, and beautiful, and it will impact many – to question, to let go, and love! Thank you for this!

  5. Rita Says:

    I stumbled upon your blog searching your brother actually lol. I wanted to read his update, was wondering how he was doing nowadays…but I take it all is well w/ him after reading your blog entry here. Glad to hear! The show I survived…Beyond and Back is my fav show. I love watching people’s testimonies about the afterlife b/c I experienced something similar.

    Anyhow, tell your brother Lucas I said he’s a cutie :-) Take care!

  6. Monie Karschner Says:

    I planned to watch it, but started watching a hallmark movie on ABC and forgot to change the channel until it was too late. I wonder if it will be on again.

  7. Dwayne Hamlett Says:

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  8. Spencer Says:

    Thanks for sharing Chris! I am happy for you and your family that your brother is still around to share in your joy!

    :)

  9. Arika Says:

    I was curious to know if he ever realized what this place was that he passed over to? Or if anybody has any idea, let me know what your thoughts are.

  10. Christopher Cox Says:

    My brother and I talked about it at length last night after the show. I think the reason everyone interprets their experience differently and more individualistically is because you have to completely die and pass in order to move entirely onward to whatever we transition to out of this perceived reality. I think when you ‘begin the transition’ it is more unique to the individual because it needs to be so it can be understood in terms that the individual can interpret.

    As far as where we go, my brother (like he said in the show) refers to it as ‘returning to the source’ of where we all come from. I think whatever that source is, it’s more dimensional than physical. I also think that it’s impossible to understand within the context of our ‘physical reality’. Where we are now in this conscious state is completely different than wherever we came from to arrive here. I think trying to explain it in words is probably impossible.

    What I have learned is not the be afraid. You will go on after this life and you are much more than you think you are. There is so much more to our existence that is truly miraculous. This life is just a tiny molecule or maybe even more like an atom in the scheme of our existence. But each atom builds upon something greater, so every life experience counts and should be treated as such. Otherwise we wouldn’t be here to live it.

  11. Arika Says:

    That makes sense. It is definitely a very interesting story. It got me to think a lot about religion and the after life. Was he religious at all when this happened?

  12. Christopher Says:

    We were raised protestant and both went to church a bit when we were young but neither my brother, I or my parents have ever been very religious.

  13. Arika Says:

    Gotcha. Well, thank you so much for taking the time to answer my questions. I wish you and your brother the best of luck and thank you guys for sharing the story! Very intriguing.

  14. Jlnk Says:

    Long time follower as well, just wanted to show some support.
    All the best to you and your family Chris, thank you for sharing.

  15. Xavier Says:

    Thanks for sharing this incredible human story. It is also very exiting to see that (true) love and (true) share are still make sense nowadays for some people. All the best

  16. John Pierre Says:

    While I thoroughly enjoyed the stories of the NDE and the after life, as a Christian I can’t
    help wondering how all these different experiences line up with the gospel and the word
    of God.

  17. Anne Says:

    I missed the episode of your brother but would love to watch the full episode. Do you know where I could find the FULL episode. It is not on A&E where they have shown others. Thanks so much!

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